Meg Cox shared a post on Facebook about her guiding word for 2014: “legacy.” Her choice is oh-so appropriate, considering she is the expert on family traditions. In true Meg style, she then invited friends to share their New Year’s word-to-live-by.
As an exercise it’s a great opportunity to pause and reflect; collect. And at this point 29 folks have done just that. Including Jamie Fingal whose word is “clarity” and Karen Lieberman and Weeks Ringle who both chose “focus.” Weeks wrote, “I do my best work when I ignore the negativity out there and who’s doing what. Bill and I try to do our best work and ignore anything that doesn’t contribute to it.”
Which immediately cued my focus word (or more correctly, idea in object form) to march front and center before me: Rose-Colored Glasses.
Rose-Colored Glasses in a Rubber Duckie World
Before you get that sicky-sweet saccharine taste in your mouth, relax, no Pollyannas here. Although I’ve been accused of being one –an intended insult that brought total clarity in an “Aha!” moment.
You see, I had this boyfriend years ago who accused me of living in a “Rubber Duckie World.” I was taken aback. “He’s calling me a Pollyanna!” Then it struck me: It was a great thing. I did live in my very own, unique, self-created world with a bathroom (and heart) full of rubber duckies. I didn’t see the world as those “regular” folks around me did. In fact at that time, in a period of regrouping after a setback, I was just getting to a point of the outside reflecting the inside again. I booted him and set about nurturing that Rubber Duckie World. And have never looked back. What a gift he gave me.
It’s All About the Bubbles
For me rose-colored glasses are the physical form of exactly what Weeks is saying. They are filters. While mine share some attributes of the commonly understood definition, for example from the American Heritage Dictionary:
Cheerful or optimistic, especially to an excessive degree: took a rose-colored view of the situation.
With an unduly cheerful, optimistic, or favorable view of things: see the world through rose-colored glasses
my rose-colored glasses are all about reality. I don them with intention. For me they function as bubble sorters.
This little slide show tells the story. (Click to go to my home page to watch it.)
Whether our tub is half-full or half empty doesn’t matter. It’s what we do with the people, places, ideas, opportunities, emotions, lessons, etc., etc. in life—the bubbles—that does matter. Rose-colored glasses perched on my nose, I choose which bubbles to catch to fill my tub and let the rest float on by. Bye bye! It’s not that I don’t see those others, it’s that my eye wear is the prescription I need to provide focus. My rose-colored glasses are the gatekeeper of my Rubber Duckie World.
And so, my guiding light for 2014 is my rose-colored glasses.
P.S. That ever-clever Amy Milne chimed in to Meg’s post with “hydrate.” Love, love, love that! Bubble baths are part of that Amy! (Bet you hadn’t thought of that!)